If you're like me, maybe you spend a fair amount of time worrying about various things. Then there is the time telling yourself not to worry about those things, and then of course there is the time feeling guilty about worrying, but still worrying...ack... I decided that it would be useful to classify these worries based on the time in your life. Now this is based on my life, but feel free to adapt it to your own. My belief and intent is to understand them, and then let them go. Are you with me?
- Stage 1 worries - The beginning, worries about whether friends will accept you, whether you fit into a peer group. Yeah? Oh yeah...that's some all consuming worry. Seems so silly now, geez, but then....whoa!
- Stage 2 worries - Worries about marrying the right person, worries about whether children will be deformed, worries about children's sicknesses, development, and yes, even their fitting into peer groups. All of a sudden, those stage 1 worries seem far less important, but nothing really changed for them...hmmm...
- Stage 3 worries - Will children figure out how to be independent and find happiness of their own. Yikes. Really? Come on worries. But so all consuming.
- Stage 4 worries - God, now worried about aging parents. Will they be able to figure out their life and all its challenges. Are they happy enough. Why is it all up to me????!
- Stage 5 worries - Life is going by, are we all happy enough? Should something change? Will we have enough money to live for ourselves in our continued adventures? BLAHHHHHH!!!
News flash - it is NOT, most definitely NOT all up to me (or you). Worries change over time I see from this study. But, interestingly, although well intended, little has really been gained by these persistent thoughts. Just changed focus really. The practical person that lives inside my body would suggest that real solutions come from thinking about problems and trying on various ideas. However, practical person, is that really what you are doing here? Seems there is a small amount of time is devoted from thinking up solutions, and an exorbitant amount of time on the obsessive fretting, hand wringing, face rubbing sorts of things.
Sigh. Perhaps we should all just let ourselves off the hook for every problem known to man and just breathe just a little. Yes, there are always problems. Yes, there are always things that can go potentially very wrong. But almost everything about these problems are out of our control. SO. Here's an idea. Let's think of something practical toward any one of our all consuming worries, do it, act on it, in whatever small or big way we can (or do nothing if nothing can be done). Then, are you ready for this? LET IT GO! Forget it for a while and just enjoy the sun coming in through the window and your hot cup of coffee. Ahhh....So much the better then, yes? Helped? Possibly?