Ah the youth. I remember when I held my first baby in my arms and thought what a perfect human, intact with all her parts, not one blemish, not one mistake yet in her dear little existence. Probably a thought that many parents have. And then I went ahead and tried my best to protect her from getting all scratched up and hurt. Probably a normal parent response too I'd say.
Then she got scratched. And then she had plenty of her own hurts that I couldn't stop from happening. It feels horrible as a parent when your child gets hurt, however it happens, however old they are.
Flipping ahead as I make plenty mistakes in my own life, getting scratched up, hurt in lots of ways, and become fairly damaged. As I work through all these scratches, some have taken years to get through....some have taken heartbreaking songs....God... I realized something. All of these mistakes and hurts have made me a far better human than when I didn't have any marks on me. So yeah maybe it's kind of a blessing in disguise right?
I will take it one step further. As I look on at young folks who really haven't had hardship or pain in their lives yet, I find myself almost feeling sorry for them. Ok, I know that sounds insane, but hear me out. Is it possible, if you don't go through something kind of horrible, getting scratched up and hurt along the way, are you able to really learn the kinds of things you need to learn? Some of these young folks are not seeing the important things in life yet. They are focussed on small problems that don't matter, and they don't seem able to look deeper at things.
I'm not being judgemental. I can see them struggling. It has been my strong instinct all along to protect these young folks to make sure they are ok and don't get hurt in ways that I can see coming. I am now wondering if maybe that is not the right instinct. Maybe it is kinder to let them fall down and get scraped up. They might just learn some things and they might just turn out to be clever and kind humans.
This all sounds insane, but this is what I'm pondering today. I'll keep on it. Maybe get something sensical. We'll see.